{"product_id":"a-love-of-your-own-soothing-the-anxious-heart-when-the-screen-is-dark-9798247277637","title":"A Love of Your Own: Soothing the Anxious Heart When the Screen is Dark","description":"\u003cp\u003e • Author(s): Bodhi Tam\u003cbr\u003e • Publisher: Independently Published\u003cbr\u003e • Publisher Imprint: Independently Published\u003cbr\u003e • BISAC: Death, Grief, Bereavement\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eTHE PHONE IS THE HEAVIEST OBJECT IN THE WORLD.\u003c\/b\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003eIt weighs only six ounces, but when it is silent, it feels heavy enough to pin you to the floor.\u003cp\u003eYou check it when you wake up. You check it in the elevator. You check it in the dark. You are checking for a heartbeat-not yours, but his.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eIf you have an Anxious Attachment style, you know the exhaustion of being a \"meteorologist\" of someone else's mood. You spend your days scanning for micro-signals, analyzing the tone of a text, and holding your breath waiting for the \"ping\" that confirms you are safe.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eBut what happens when the signal doesn't come? What happens when you are standing in the elevator and the bars drop to \"No Service\"?\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eA LOVE OF YOUR OWN\u003c\/b\u003e is not a dating guide. It will not teach you how to \"make him text back\" or how to play games to win affection.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eInstead, this book invites you to stop waiting and start living.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eThrough the story of \"Bella\"-a capable woman crumbling inside a high-rise office-and grounded practices drawn from Eastern philosophy and trauma-informed psychology, Bodhi Tam guides you gently from the panic of the \"Dead Zone\" to the solid ground of your own life.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eIn these pages, you will learn how to: \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003cp\u003eSurvive the Silence: Move from the \"Draft from the Vent\" (panic) to the \"Bedrock\" (grounding) when he doesn't reply.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003cp\u003eReclaim Your Nervous System: Simple, physical techniques like The Paperweight and The Unclench to stop the spiral instantly.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003cp\u003eGenerate Your Own Light: Stop acting like a mirror that only shines when he looks at you, and start becoming the lamp on the desk.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003cp\u003eBuild Boundaries: Not with anger, but with the quiet, administrative power of \"Sorting the Mail.\"\u003c\/p\u003e\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\u003cp\u003eSleep Without Waiting: A closing ritual to help you \"Clock Out\" from the job of managing the relationship.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\u003cp\u003eYou do not need the phone to ring to know that you are whole. You are whole right now. Even in the silence. Especially in the silence.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003ePut the heavy bag of waiting down. Open this book. And come home to yourself.\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e","brand":"Independently Published","offers":[{"title":"Paperback","offer_id":47778879013015,"sku":"9798247277637","price":839.0,"currency_code":"INR","in_stock":true}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0666\/3471\/1191\/files\/9798247277637.webp?v=1778031793","url":"https:\/\/atlanticbooks.com\/products\/a-love-of-your-own-soothing-the-anxious-heart-when-the-screen-is-dark-9798247277637","provider":"Atlantic Books","version":"1.0","type":"link"}