{"product_id":"married-strangers-how-long-marriages-go-quiet-and-how-to-come-back-without-a-crisis-9798198828100","title":"Married Strangers: How Long Marriages Go Quiet, and How to Come Back Without a Crisis","description":"\u003cp\u003e • Author(s): Maren Cole\u003cbr\u003e • Publisher: Independently Published\u003cbr\u003e • Publisher Imprint: Independently Published\u003cbr\u003e • BISAC: Marriage \u0026amp; Long Term Relationships\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eYour house is not on fire. You are also not in a marriage.\u003cbr\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eIt is a Tuesday morning. You are standing in your own kitchen, and your husband - fourteen years in - walks past you to refill his coffee, and neither of you says anything. Not a fight. Not a cold shoulder. You have not had an argument in months. He is not upset with you. You are not upset with him. You have simply both decided, at some point neither of you can pinpoint, that the morning coffee refill no longer requires commentary. The kettle clicks. He leaves the room. You notice. That is the problem.\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eIf that sentence made you flinch, this is the book you have been waiting for.\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eMarried Strangers\u003c\/b\u003e is the field guide the marriage canon has not yet written: a book for the couples whose marriages did not break - they simply went \u003ci\u003equiet\u003c\/i\u003e. There is no infidelity here. No five-alarm crisis. No chapter on whether to leave. There is, instead, the quieter problem that kills more long marriages than any single dramatic event: the slow leak of years thirteen through twenty-two, when the house functions, the bills get paid, and the marriage hollows out at a rate so gradual you adjust to it in real time.\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eDrawn from six years of reporting and eighty-three interviews with long-married couples, this is the book that begins where Gottman, Perel, and Sue Johnson stop short. Direct, literary, opinionated, unsentimental - for the marriage you intend to stay in.\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eInside, you will find: \u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cul\u003e\n\u003cbr\u003e\u003cli\u003eThe taxonomy of the quiet phase - and why every marriage book on every nightstand misses it\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cbr\u003e\u003cli\u003eThe first conversation that does not trigger defense, scripted line by line\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cbr\u003e\u003cli\u003eFourteen Protocols - specific, time-bounded exercises (not affirmations, not journaling prompts) that produce a measurable change in your marriage in days, not months\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cbr\u003e\u003cli\u003eThe five-sentence repair, memorizable, deployable under pressure\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cbr\u003e\u003cli\u003eWhy scheduling sex is the most romantic thing a long marriage does - and the touch-restart protocol most couples never try\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cbr\u003e\u003cli\u003eThe Solo Work - the half of marital repair that requires no participation from your spouse\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cbr\u003e\u003cli\u003eThe harder version of the book - the twelve-month marker for the reader whose spouse will not yet meet them halfway\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cbr\u003e\u003cli\u003eThe reframe that lets a marriage survive four decades of two people who keep becoming different people\u003c\/li\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003c\/ul\u003e \u003cp\u003eFor the couples who didn't end in flames but somewhere along the way stopped finishing each other's sentences. The quiet did not happen all at once. It will not unwind all at once either. But it does unwind. That is the only promise this book makes, and the only one it needs to keep.\u003c\/p\u003e","brand":"Independently Published","offers":[{"title":"Paperback","offer_id":47890026725527,"sku":"9798198828100","price":1273.0,"currency_code":"INR","in_stock":true}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0666\/3471\/1191\/files\/9798198828100.webp?v=1781178573","url":"https:\/\/atlanticbooks.com\/products\/married-strangers-how-long-marriages-go-quiet-and-how-to-come-back-without-a-crisis-9798198828100","provider":"Atlantic Books","version":"1.0","type":"link"}