{"product_id":"raising-an-autistic-girl-recognizing-the-hidden-signs-managing-masking-meltdowns-and-school-to-raise-a-woman-who-thrives-9798257521928","title":"Raising an Autistic Girl: Recognizing the Hidden Signs, Managing Masking, Meltdowns, and School to Raise a Woman Who Thrives","description":"\u003cp\u003e • Author(s): Alyssa Powell\u003cbr\u003e • Publisher: Independently Published\u003cbr\u003e • Publisher Imprint: Independently Published\u003cbr\u003e • BISAC: Psychopathology - Autism\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eHer teacher says she's fine. The pediatrician says she's fine. Your partner says you're overreacting.\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eBut every afternoon the same child who held it together all day walks through your door and falls apart. The clothes she can't wear, the foods she won't touch, the mornings that take an hour before anyone leaves the house. You see something nobody else does. And some nights you wonder if you're the problem.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eYou're not the problem. You're the only one paying attention.\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eSound familiar?\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eDoctors dismiss your concerns because her grades are fine and she makes eye contact\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eSimple requests explode into screaming - pure overwhelm, every time\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eYour partner thinks she needs more discipline. You know that's not it - but you can't explain what is\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eYou've read everything online and none of it matches your daughter\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eYou lie awake at 2 AM wondering what you're doing wrong - or if you can keep doing this for the rest of your life\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\u003cp\u003eYour daughter isn't misbehaving. She's masking. She spends all day studying other girls, copying their body language, learning their rules, performing \"normal\" so convincingly that every adult around her relaxes. By the time she gets home she has nothing left. Your kitchen is the only place safe enough to collapse.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eThe diagnostic system was built almost entirely on boys. That's why the professionals keep missing her. That's why you feel crazy.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eI'm Alyssa. I'm not a doctor. I'm an autistic mother of an autistic daughter who spent years blaming herself before she understood what she was looking at. I made every mistake you can make and I'll tell you about each one. Think of this as coffee at midnight with someone who's already been through it.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eWhat you'll find inside: \u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cb\u003eThe hidden signs everyone missed: \u003c\/b\u003e Four doctors, two years, one teacher who finally said \"have you considered...\" Why autistic girls fly under the radar and how to finally get taken seriously\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cb\u003eMeltdowns, shutdowns, and sensory processing: \u003c\/b\u003e The grocery store floor. The toaster that ruined a Thursday. What's actually happening in her nervous system and how to respond without making it worse\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cb\u003eSchool accommodations: \u003c\/b\u003e \"She's doing fine academically\" - the sentence that closes every door. How to get support for a child whose report card is working against her\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cb\u003eFriendships: \u003c\/b\u003e She came home from the birthday party and went straight to her room, face-down, unreachable for an hour. And what to do about it\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cb\u003eCommunication: \u003c\/b\u003e Why her vocabulary makes everyone think she's fine - and what it actually hides\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cb\u003eDemand avoidance, puberty, and mental health: \u003c\/b\u003e PDA, body changes, and the anxiety hiding behind her perfectionism\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cb\u003eTherapies that respect who she is: \u003c\/b\u003e The therapist who told me my daughter needed to learn to be normal. How to find the ones who listen before they label\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cb\u003eYour family, your partner, you: \u003c\/b\u003e The fights about discipline that are really about something else. The sibling who feels invisible. The grandparents who keep saying she just needs a firmer hand. And what happens to the person holding it all together when nobody holds them\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eYou're terrified about her future.\u003c\/b\u003e Whether she'll manage. Whether she'll be okay when you're not there.\u003c\/p\u003eShe will. Because a girl who grows up understood - actually understood, not managed - grows into someone who can handle a world that wasn't designed for her.","brand":"Independently Published","offers":[{"title":"Paperback","offer_id":47883261051031,"sku":"9798257521928","price":1231.0,"currency_code":"INR","in_stock":true}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0666\/3471\/1191\/files\/9798257521928.webp?v=1781100641","url":"https:\/\/atlanticbooks.com\/products\/raising-an-autistic-girl-recognizing-the-hidden-signs-managing-masking-meltdowns-and-school-to-raise-a-woman-who-thrives-9798257521928","provider":"Atlantic Books","version":"1.0","type":"link"}