{"product_id":"the-cost-of-quiet-how-to-have-the-hard-conversations-that-create-secure-lasting-love-9780593852743","title":"The Cost of Quiet: How to Have the Hard Conversations That Create Secure, Lasting Love","description":"\u003cp\u003e • Author(s): Lmft Lmhc Fehr Colette Jane\u003cbr\u003e • Publisher: G.P. Putnam's Sons\u003cbr\u003e • Publisher Imprint: G.P. Putnam's Sons\u003cbr\u003e • BISAC: Love \u0026amp; Romance\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eAn empowering, healing guide that reveals the true cost of avoidant behavior in a relationship--disconnection, disengagement, and divorce--and shows how we can instead learn to speak up and start connecting with the ones we love most.\u003c\/b\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003ci\u003e\"I wish I had spoken up sooner.\"\u003c\/i\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003ePeople think relationships fail because of deal breakers like infidelity, finances, or parenting problems. But the real culprit is often much less dramatic: emotional disconnection after years of staying silent and avoiding conflict. We're afraid to say what we need because we worry about what will come next. \u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003eAvoidant behavior--the need to \"keep the peace\" rather than dealing with conflict head on--isn't our fault. Our ingrained attachment wiring urges us to sidestep day-to-day disputes and brush lingering problems under the rug. But silence is a losing proposition in the long term, leading us to self-abandon and essentially \"quiet quit\" our relationships. \u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003eWe can make another choice. In \u003ci\u003eThe Cost of Quiet\u003c\/i\u003e, licensed marriage and family therapist Colette Jane Fehr shines a light on the epidemic of avoidant behavior and how to overcome it. Drawing from the latest attachment science and evidence-based therapies she's used to repair the bond between hundreds of couples, Fehr gives us the tools to approach those we love with openness, honesty, and vulnerability. The ultimate goal: a securely attached relationship that engages with conflict productively, and the confidence that comes from speaking up and being heard--because a good relationship is worth fighting for.","brand":"G.P. Putnam's Sons","offers":[{"title":"Hardcover","offer_id":47565026754711,"sku":"9780593852743","price":1959.0,"currency_code":"INR","in_stock":true}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0666\/3471\/1191\/files\/9780593852743.webp?v=1774696273","url":"https:\/\/atlanticbooks.com\/products\/the-cost-of-quiet-how-to-have-the-hard-conversations-that-create-secure-lasting-love-9780593852743","provider":"Atlantic Books","version":"1.0","type":"link"}