{"product_id":"the-space-between-us-understanding-the-pain-that-keeps-couples-9798249690854","title":"The Space Between Us: Understanding the Pain That Keeps Couples","description":"\u003cp\u003e • Author(s): Mario Linguari\u003cbr\u003e • Publisher: Independently Published\u003cbr\u003e • Publisher Imprint: Independently Published\u003cbr\u003e • BISAC: Conflict Resolution\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eThe War You Didn't Mean to StartThe War You Didn't Mean to Start\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eIf you are holding this book, you are likely tired.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eNot just physically, but soul-tired. You are tired of the same arguments looping like a broken record. You are tired of loving someone deeply but feeling completely lonely when you are in the same room with them.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eYou may have tried communication techniques. You may have tried counting to ten. You may have tried walking away to cool off. And yet, the pain remains.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eHere is the truth that changes everything: You are not fighting each other. You are fighting for safety.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eMost couples believe they are fighting about the dishes, the money, or the tone of voice. But those are just the sparks. They are not the fire.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eWhen you feel triggered, your nervous system perceives a threat. It does not matter if the threat is a tiger in the woods or a partner who forgot to text you back. Your body reacts the same way. It prepares to fight, to flee, or to freeze. When you yell, you are often trying to protect yourself from feeling unseen. When you shut down, you are often trying to protect yourself from feeling inadequate.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eYou are both fighting your own fear, using each other as the battlefield.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eThis book is not about adding more techniques to your relationship. It is not about learning the perfect script to win an argument. It is about understanding the hidden architecture of your pain so you can stop the war you didn't mean to start.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eYou do not need to be perfect to heal. You do not need to know all the answers. You only need to be willing to look at the pain with curiosity instead of blame.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eYou are ready for this. \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003eLet us begin.","brand":"Independently Published","offers":[{"title":"Paperback","offer_id":47569018847383,"sku":"9798249690854","price":1209.0,"currency_code":"INR","in_stock":false}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0666\/3471\/1191\/files\/9798249690854.webp?v=1774872531","url":"https:\/\/atlanticbooks.com\/products\/the-space-between-us-understanding-the-pain-that-keeps-couples-9798249690854","provider":"Atlantic Books","version":"1.0","type":"link"}