{"product_id":"the-stop-them-theory-when-let-them-isnt-enough-9781733775076","title":"The Stop Them Theory: When Let Them Isn't Enough","description":"\u003cp\u003e • Author(s): Sleater Kennedy\u003cbr\u003e • Publisher: Zsenon Publishing\u003cbr\u003e • Publisher Imprint: Zsenon Publishing\u003cbr\u003e • BISAC: Motivational \u0026amp; Inspirational\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eYou've been \"letting them\" so long you've forgotten how to STOP THEM.\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003eLet them be late. Let them take advantage. Let them violate your boundaries while you smile and absorb the chaos. Let them treat your \"no\" as negotiable and your needs as optional.\u003cbr\u003eSound familiar?\u003cbr\u003eFor years, Boston historic tour guide and comedian Sleater Kennedy thought radical acceptance meant accepting everything from everyone. Accepting the coworker who used her, the friend who only called in crisis, the family members who ignored every boundary she tried to set. She'd internalized the \"let them\" philosophy so completely that she'd become a doormat with just a mantra.\u003cbr\u003eThen one night, standing in her kitchen at midnight making a casserole for someone she didn't even like, she realized: \u003ci\u003eThis isn't enlightenment. This is erasure.\u003c\/i\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eThe STOP THEM Theory\u003c\/b\u003e is the book for everyone who's been told to \"let it go,\" \"be the bigger person,\" and \"let them.\" And then discovered that sometimes peace requires you to \u003cb\u003eSTOP\u003c\/b\u003e the people who are destroying it.\u003cbr\u003ePart memoir, part manifesto, part comedy set about the absurdity of modern boundary violations, Kennedy's book teaches you: \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eWhen to let them (80% of the time) and when to stop them (the 20% that actually matters)\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eHow to tell the difference between assertive and asshole\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eThe art of the direct conversation (without cruelty or apology)\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eWhat to do when someone won't stop including restraining orders, HR complaints, and walking away\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eHow to recover from years of \"let them\" damage\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003eWritten with the sharp wit of a stand-up comedian and the no-nonsense authority of a woman who's spent fifteen years telling tourists not to touch the artifacts, this book is your permission slip to stop letting them walk all over you. \u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003ci\u003eFor readers who loved \"\u003cb\u003eThe Don't F**king Let Them Theory\u003c\/b\u003e\" and \"\u003c\/i\u003e\u003cb\u003eThe Let Them Theory\u003c\/b\u003e\u003ci\u003e\"\u003c\/i\u003e","brand":"Zsenon Publishing","offers":[{"title":"Paperback","offer_id":47570210160791,"sku":"9781733775076","price":1032.0,"currency_code":"INR","in_stock":false}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0666\/3471\/1191\/files\/9781733775076.webp?v=1774880725","url":"https:\/\/atlanticbooks.com\/products\/the-stop-them-theory-when-let-them-isnt-enough-9781733775076","provider":"Atlantic Books","version":"1.0","type":"link"}