{"product_id":"winning-over-shame-a-memoir-of-surviving-sexual-emotional-and-psychological-abuse-plus-the-skills-and-tools-anyone-can-use-to-find-their-whole-and-9798894201139","title":"Winning Over Shame: A memoir of surviving sexual, emotional, and psychological abuse, plus the skills and tools anyone can use to find their whole and","description":"\u003cp\u003e • Author(s): Deborah Leah\u003cbr\u003e • Publisher: Bright Communications LLC\u003cbr\u003e • Publisher Imprint: Bright Communications LLC\u003cbr\u003e • BISAC: Abuse - Child Abuse\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eShame is a dark emptiness in your core that says, \"You are wrong.\" \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eShame is not embarrassment, which although it stings warns, \"You have done wrong.\"\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eBoth shame and embarrassment can serve a purpose if you have done something wrong and crossed lines. In that case, shame and embarrassment can warn you about behavior and motivate you to make a change.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eBut what about people suffering from the shame of abuse? Those who carry the shame of their abusers' sins? Many of those people hide in the shadows. Other people bury their shame by overachieving and striving for perfection. Still other people drown out their shame with addictions. \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eDo you carry this shame or love someone who does? \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eDeborah has written this story for you.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eHer certainty that she was wrong started early. She took on the shame of what she was sure was her fault by the time she was four years old. After all, she felt that surely grownups could never be to blame.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eBy the time Deborah was six years old, her parents had divorced. \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eDeborah's story progressed to another level when she turned nine and innocently told her father, \"I don't want to go home\" at the end of a Christmas visitation. Her father agreed but made it clear he was only taking on the inconvenience because she had asked.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eFor the next six months, Deborah lived through isolation and sexual, emotional, and psychological abuse-not only at her father's hands, but also by Them, the five sadistic adults her father lived with, and often left her alone with.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eThat abuse, and the shame it triggered, colored all that followed.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eAt twenty-three, Deborah met her future husband on a psychiatric ward. She was in a fragile state after being abandoned by her soulmate.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eDeborah's new relationship started with love and light and some of the best times she had ever known. Then other sex began to encroach on her love-flirting progressed to a threesome to a swinging group.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eWhen Deborah finally left her marriage, she searched for new purpose in the world. She failed and failed-until, finally, she hit rock bottom again.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eFrom there, Deborah's story is one of facing fears and overcoming limitations. Deborah grew tiny step by tiny step toward her ultimate goal: to be whole and happy. Along the way, she developed skills, tools, and wisdom that she shares in this unblinking story of growth and healing.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eAnd what could be better than that.\u003c\/p\u003e","brand":"Bright Communications LLC","offers":[{"title":"Paperback","offer_id":48216147951767,"sku":"9798894201139","price":1387.0,"currency_code":"INR","in_stock":true}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0666\/3471\/1191\/files\/9798894201139.webp?v=1788735925","url":"https:\/\/atlanticbooks.com\/products\/winning-over-shame-a-memoir-of-surviving-sexual-emotional-and-psychological-abuse-plus-the-skills-and-tools-anyone-can-use-to-find-their-whole-and-9798894201139","provider":"Atlantic Books","version":"1.0","type":"link"}