This transformative workbook is the long-awaited companion to An African-American Guide to Ethical Non-Monogamy-the first book of its kind centering the experiences, challenges, and cultural realities of Black individuals exploring open relationships.
Created by erotic educator and ENM coach Taylor K. Sparks, this interactive guide is for anyone curious about or actively transitioning into ethical non-monogamy. Whether you're single, partnered, in a throuple or a quad, this workbook offers guided exercises, self-reflection prompts, and real-world tools to help you navigate the journey with clarity, confidence, and care.
While this workbook centers the lived experiences of African-Americans-including the historical, relational, and cultural influences that shape how we love-its tools and guidance are designed to support anyone ready to build healthier, more intentional relationships through ethical non-monogamy.
More than just a journal, this is your step-by-step roadmap to exploring your evolving relationship style while honoring your values, emotional needs, and cultural heritage.
Inside you'll find:
- ✅ Prompts to explore your core values and relationship beliefs
- ✅ Tools for emotional regulation, managing jealousy, and embracing your desires
- ✅ Step-by-step guidance for setting boundaries and making collaborative agreements
- ✅ Exercises to improve communication, deepen connection, and resolve conflict
- ✅ Cultural reflections that examine how African-American history, family dynamics, and sexual stereotypes impact our relationship choices
- ✅ A final chapter to map your ENM vision and reflect on how far you've come
Each chapter includes exercises for both individuals and those in partnered or polyamorous relationships-making this workbook a powerful companion no matter where you are in your journey.
Topics include:
- What ethical non-monogamy looks like (and what it isn't)
- How to talk to your partner(s) about ENM
- Navigating emotional challenges like jealousy, insecurity, and fear
- Cultural conditioning around sexuality, secrecy, and survival
- The role of behavioral epigenetics and inherited beliefs
- Boundaries, agreements, and repair
- Communication skills and emotional safety
- Sexual health and ENM self-care
- Integrating your ENM identity into your everyday life
This workbook was created with a specific focus on the African-American community-but the tools and insights are valuable for anyone seeking a grounded, inclusive approach to exploring open love styles.
Perfect for:
- Individuals seeking clarity about their ENM desires
- Couples transitioning from monogamy
- Throuples and polycules needing tools for structure and communication
- Anyone who wants to explore non-monogamy through a culturally informed, emotionally intelligent lens
Whether you're just beginning your journey or deep in the process of redefining what love looks like for you, this workbook will help you build the skills, mindset, and confidence needed to thrive in ethical non-monogamy-on your terms.
Your love. Your rules. Your freedom.
Sparks, Taylor K.: - Taylor K. Sparks is a Sex Goddess, Ethical Non-monogamy coach, and Erotic Educator with over 16 years of personal and professional experience in the ethical non-monogamy (ENM) community. Founder of OrganicLoven.com, the largest BIPOC owned organic intimacy shop, she is a passionate advocate for holistic sexual wellness, and sexual freedom. Taylor helps individuals and partners embrace their authentic love styles with confidence and supports them during their transition into and/or through ethical non-monogamy. Certified in both Human Behavior and Holistic Aromatherapy, author of An African-American Guide to Ethical Non-Monogamy, and creator of The Ethical Non-Monogamy quiz, she brings a unique, and culturally informed approach to relationship transformation.
