This Is Not What I Planned: Nobody Told You Parenthood Would Feel Like This: The Identity Crisis, Exhaustion, Financial Shock, and Unexpected Love of

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ISBN13: 9798197451606
Binding: Paperback
Subject: N/A
Publisher: Independently Published
Publisher Imprint: Independently Published
Publication Date: May 18, 2026
Pages: 164
Original Price: GBP 12.77
Language: English
Edition: N/A
Item Weight: 205 grams
BISAC Subject(s): Personal Growth / General

About The Book

Parenthood was supposed to feel meaningful.

Nobody warned you it might also feel disorienting, lonely, financially overwhelming, emotionally destabilizing, and nothing like the version people post online.

This Is Not What I Planned is the honest, research-informed guide to the transition nobody explains clearly enough: what happens to the adult during early parenthood.

This is not a parenting manual about sleep schedules or developmental milestones.

It is a book about you.

The identity shift. The exhaustion. The relationship strain. The invisible grief of losing the version of yourself you used to recognize. The financial shock nobody prepared you for. The love that exists alongside all of it.

Written in a compassionate, deeply validating voice, this book combines emotional honesty with documented research on matrescence, postpartum mental health, caregiver burnout, relationships, career disruption, and the first three years of parenthood.

Inside, you'll discover:
- Why early parenthood can feel emotionally destabilizing even when you deeply love your child
- The real financial and career costs many families are never warned about
- What research says about postpartum identity changes and matrescence
- How relationships often shift after a baby-and how couples survive it
- The difference between normal overwhelm and postpartum mental health concerns
- Why feeling conflicted does not make you a bad parent
- What actually helps during the hardest phase of the transition

For first-time parents, expecting parents, exhausted partners, and anyone quietly wondering, "Why does this feel so much harder than everyone said it would?"

You are not failing.

You were never meant to do this without honesty, language, support, and context.

This book gives you all four.

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