But Do You Feel Safe with Him?: 10 Reasons Why Performing Femininity Never Works in Love (Special Edition)

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ISBN13: 9781942985228
Binding: Hardcover
Subject: N/A
Publisher: Al-Walaa Publications
Publisher Imprint: Al-Walaa Publications
Publication Date: August 30, 2025
Pages: 302
Original Price: GBP 36.99
Language: English
Edition: 2nd Edition
Item Weight: 572 grams
BISAC Subject(s): Personal Growth / Happiness

About The Book

"From my earliest memories of childhood, anxious people-pleasing defined my existence," Umm Zakiyyah says. "It wasn't until my late thirties that I began to even process the meaning of self-care. After that, it took several more years for me to understand the meaning and necessity of self-love. But it wasn't until after my second divorce, when I was in my forties, that the concept of feeling emotionally safe held any meaning or significance for me at all."

In this personal testimony, which is part memoir, part self-help, Umm Zakiyyah, internationally acclaimed author of If I Should Speak, His Other Wife, and Before You Become His Garment in Marriage, shares ten reasons why prioritizing being "feminine" as defined by the male gaze not only causes long-term harm to the woman herself, but also makes the experience of true, deeply felt love impossible. When this performative womanhood comes at the price of a woman's authenticity, it is a sign that the woman does not feel emotionally safe in her relationship.

She says, "So often as women, we spend so much of our lives auditioning and performing for a man's heart, wondering if he'll be the one to finally choose us. It is only after years of this exhaustive tap dancing that we come to realize we should have focused on winning our own hearts and choosing our own selves."

About The Author

Zakiyyah, Umm: - Known for her soul-touching books and spiritual reflections on emotional healing, Umm Zakiyyah is a world-renowned author, speaker, and soul-care mentor. She specializes in supporting women of faith transform into the best version of themselves-personally, emotionally, and spiritually. Also known by her birth name Ruby Moore and her "Muslim name" Baiyinah Siddeeq, Umm Zakiyyah is the internationally acclaimed, award-winning author of more than fifty books, including novels, short stories, and self-help. Her books are used in high schools and universities in the United States and worldwide, and her work has been translated into multiple languages. Her novel His Other Wife is now a short film (available on Prime Video). Umm Zakiyyah is certified in Rapid Transformational Therapy (R) (RTT) and hypnotherapy, qualifications she earned under the guidance of Marisa Peer, author of I Am Enough. Umm Zakiyyah is a certified member of IACT (International Association of Counselors and Therapists) and an executive member of IICT (International Institute of Complementary Therapists).Umm Zakiyyah studied Arabic, Qur'an, Islamic sciences, 'aqeedah, and tafseer in the USA, Egypt, and Saudi Arabia for more than fifteen years. Umm Zakiyyah has a BA degree in Elementary Education, an MA in English Language Learning, and Cambridge's CELTA (Certificate in English Language Teaching to Adults). She is currently based in Dallas, Texas (USA).

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