"This is a must-read for any parent or family member who lives with a loved one's addiction."
"I read every book out there on addiction, but this is the only book that made sense."
In 2004, Valerie Silveira's 18-year-old daughter was shot by her ex-boyfriend. Over the next decade, Jordan's life spun further out of control, and, as a result, Valerie plunged into darkness. She would face the heartbreaking reality that her daughter was addicted to heroin and the painful truth that she was powerless to save Jamied from her Addiction Beast. (Valerie changed Jamie's name to Jordan in this book out of respect for her story.)
Are you living with a Beast? They come in all shapes and sizes. Some arrive because of an alcoholic or addict in the family, abuse, abandonment, an accident or illness, loss, perfectionism, or something else. Many are a combination of two or more. A Beast is that situation, person, attitude, or circumstance that has left you lost, defeated, frustrated, angry, hopeless helpless, or in paralyzing fear. Our Beasts remind us of the past, keep us from living in the present, and fearful of the future. Beginning three years before the shooting, Valerie stepped onto what she calls the Roller Coaster from Hell. Her Codependent Enabler, Beast, rode it with her, but it would take Valerie nearly thirteen years to acknowledge the Beast slowly taking over her life. With a heart shattered into a million pieces, a broken family, health issues, financial hardship, and depression, Valerie was giving up the hope of ever being happy again. Still Standing After All the Tears takes you on a journey through the agony and hopelessness of losing a child over and over again to drug addiction. Valerie shares her very painful and inspiring journey to battle her own two-headed Codependency Enabler Beast.
This book will give hope to anyone living with any kind of Beast - that you, too, have what it takes to stand up and fight. Valerie created the 9 Weapons of Hope(R) that are helping countless others to stand up and fight, to put the pieces back together after all hell breaks loose.
1. Decide to Stand Up & Fight
2. Get On Your Spiritual Armor
3. Put On Your Oxygen Mask
4. Build Your Circle of Strength
5. Change Your Attitude
6. Adjust Your Focus
7. Stop Being a Control Freak
8. Stand On Your Story
9. Make Meaning From the Madness
Valerie has an incredibly relatable style; her sense of humor shows through the pain. This book is essential not only for families of loved ones in addiction or domestic abuse but also for anyone struggling to move through or past a severe life situation.
The 9 Weapons of Hope are the very actions that Valerie still uses today and that are helping others to stand up and reclaim their lives. If you are a mother of a person with an addiction or have a family member or loved one who is an addict, this book is for you. If your Beast has nothing to do with addiction, this book is still for you. No matter what Beast you have been living with, the 9 Weapons of Hope could mean the difference between living and really living.
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