What Are We?
A Tool for Understanding Your Relationships
Are you trying to understand a connection-friendship, romance, family-and can't name what is happening?
Most people rely on instinct or guesswork.
Relational Code Theory gives you a clear, structured way to finally understand
what is actually happening between you and another person.
What Are We? is a practical and profound tool for bringing clarity to your relational world. Instead of vague labels or overthinking, this method helps you map, measure, and make sense of your relationships with precision.
This book helps you: Understand your relational dynamics instead of analysing them in circles
See patterns clearly across friendships, romances, and family bonds
Identify your strengths, challenges, and blind spots in any connection
Differentiate emotional chemistry from compatibility
Track how relationships evolve over time
Make grounded decisions about closeness, distance, commitment, or change
Develop language to communicate relational needs with clarity
Feel more agency and peace in your interpersonal life
Inside the book, you'll find: The full Relational Signature system
A detailed questionnaire to evaluate each connection
A visual map for interpreting your results
Clear examples, diagrams, and guidance
A method suitable for individuals, couples, friends, and therapists
Who is this book for?This tool is for anyone who wants to understand relationships with more depth and less confusion-especially if you value emotional intelligence, personal growth, psychology, or intentional living.
What Are We? is especially powerful for people who relate to the world through imagination, pattern-making, or emotional intensity-including those who:
- Build stories quicklyIf you tend to fantasise, idealise, or create narratives around someone before reality fully unfolds, this tool helps ground your perception in what is actually happening instead of what could happen.
- Confuse chemistry with compatibilityIf you've ever felt a strong physical or sexual pull and later realised it wasn't emotional or relational alignment, this system helps separate:
biological responses
emotional resonance
actual compatibility
So you can understand attraction without being consumed by it.
- Need clarity to feel safeMany neurodivergent people appreciate concrete frameworks for navigating the invisible layers of relationships. RCT offers structure, language, and predictability - without limiting emotional nuance.
- Want to understand how reality worksIf you're the kind of person who enjoys to name, conceptualise, or map the unseen dynamics between people, this framework finally gives shape to something that's usually left to ambiguity.
- Want a grounded way to make decisionsIf you overthink or doubt your relational instincts, it gives you an anchor: measurable nodes, clear categories, and a visual signature that brings perspective.
About the AuthorDanisina is a strategist, philosopher, and artist. She created Relational Code Theory after a decade working in strategic communication and years exploring how health, connection, and collaboration shape human relationships. Her work blends clarity, practicality, and a deep respect for the emotional lives of people.
This book will change the way you understand your connections.
